5 things you didn’t expect when becoming a new mum

Becoming a parent is a feeling like no other. A whole other human being for you to take care of, love and be there for. Being a mum or dad doesn’t come with a manual of course. Sometimes you just wing it. However, it does make it a whole lot easier with family and close friends around who have some sort of experience in this department.


Sometimes though, you’re just not prepared for what’s to come because life doesn’t work that way. Especially motherhood. The idea of being a parent and the reality are two different things. Most first time mothers have certain expectations about what being a mum will be like. Here’s what you didn’t expect…


1. You’re not easily embarrassed

For those with social anxiety, that’ll go away when your baby is hungry. Trust us. Even in public spaces, you won’t think twice about whipping out your breast to feed your child. You simply don’t care anymore because you’re now thinking of your little human.


2. You won’t be trapped in the house

You probably think you won’t see the outside of your home when the baby comes when in fact, it’s the exact opposite. How and when you do it is entirely up to you. You’re allowed to go for walks with your baby. It will be difficult at first because you have to remember to carry all the essentials but it’s not impossible. You’ll get the hang of it and may grow to love going on adventures with your baby!


3. You’ll still be the same person

Being a mum comes with a lot of responsibilities and of course, will take up a lot of your time. Having said that doesn’t mean you’re going to be a whole new person. You may think you’ll change because you’re a ‘mum’ but what will surprise you is that you’re still going to be you. Just with a baby.


4. It can take time to fall in love

Sometimes we have this idea in our heads that we will fall in love with our babies the moment they are born. The truth is this isn’t always the case. The reality is, some mothers fall in love instantly and for some, it takes time and that’s okay. If this is so, give yourself time and figure it out. When you get to that point, it will be magical.


5. Maternal instincts aren’t what you think they are

Textbooks tell us that maternal instincts kick in when you become a mother but that’s not necessarily a reality for all mothers. Sometimes you just learn what works and what doesn’t. So, don’t you feel bad for not having all your maternal instincts kick in the moment your baby comes. Learn your babies needs and you both will be fine.

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